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-Who are you? MICHAEL ANGELO: Michael Angelo. -OK. Nice to meet you, Michael. -Nice to meet you. How are you?

I’ve been out with black women or approached a black woman. And before they even knew me, they said, how many kids you got? How many baby mommas you got? Dating outside my race, I haven’t had no issues like that at all. -OK, and you are? -I’m Koro.

Koro. I’ve been practicing abstinence for three years. Three years with no sex. I’m looking for someone that can respect my views on this, someone that can love me for me. -And you are? -Bo. -Bo? -Yeah. I don’t date black women now because of past experiences.

They like to place their strong personality on you. And sometimes you just kind of– you’re just like, stay in a woman’s place. So do you have any idea why you’re here? We share some of the same opinions.

About? Why are black women so angry? Was your mother angry? To a certain degree, yes.

She had that anger inside of her. But she made sure that she didn’t pass it on to me. I see how she handles that. And she gives off that vibe that I get from women here. But when it came to me, and how she approached me and taught me about women, she said, don’t deal with this.

That’s interesting. Because as a black mother, my work was to help my son understand it so that he would know how to stand in it with a black woman. Why are you here? My situation’s a little bit different because I traveled a lot when I was a kid.

Very talented, very gifted musically. So because of that, and when I came back to my neighborhood, when I was dealing with certain black women, you’re different. You talk funny. You dress funny.

The music you listen to is funny. I don’t like being– because I had flip-flops on or had a turtleneck, I’m gay. The problem I’m having is just because you’re my culture, and you’re black, you don’t get a pass. All of the women in my family– I’ve got a side of cousins that made me feel weird about that. How can anybody make you feel anything?

You get to choose how you feel. You don’t know that when you’re a kid. It’s a psychological imprint. What does that have to do with today? Now, with a black woman, I have this in my mind before I even talk to you.

She’s going to think I’m weird. And that bothered me a lot. When I went to junior high school, I got bussed from Ocean Hill Brownsville to Flatbush. And they spit on me and called me a nigger. They spit on me.

And I was 13. And these were adults, not the children. So my point is this. That don’t have nothing to do with who I am today. [MUSIC PLAYING] What is your experience?

A lot of black women, they don’t want to talk to me. Some of them won’t talk to me. -Because? Some of them won’t talk to me because, number one, I’m a God-fearing man. I don’t believe– like right now I’m practicing abstinence.

I’m not having any sex whatsoever. Why you ain’t in the church? I am in the church. I’m going to talk to you about the church women. If you don’t have a collar, they don’t want to talk to you.

I’m going to be straight up. But do you know what. the collar represents, though? I guess it’s purity, or leadership, or divine. How about power? Yeah.

How about power? That’s what it represents. But let me tell you why I’ve called you here today.

I’ve invited you here because my intention is to dismantle the myth of the angry black woman. I believe it’s a myth. As a black woman, I believe it’s a myth.

I invited you here for a mixer tonight, just to be with some women. All kinds of women. All ages of women. We all have a story.

We all have an experience. And we all get to choose. Tonight you get to choose how you’re going to experience these women. But I do also want to thank you for being here. Thank you for being a demonstration.

Because I know there are hundreds of thousands of black men, all ages, who have had these experiences. And I believe. And it’s my intention for us to heal.

Why These Black Men Don’t Date Black Women | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network

-Who are you? MICHAEL ANGELO: Michael Angelo. -OK. Nice to meet you, Michael. -Nice to meet you.

How are you? I’ve been out with black women or approached a black woman. And before they even knew me, they said, how many kids you got?

How many baby mommas you got? Dating outside my race, I haven‘t had no issues like that at all. -OK, and you are? -I’m Koro. Koro.

I’ve been practicing abstinence for three years. Three years with no sex. I’m looking for someone that can respect my views on this, someone that can love me for me. -And you are? -Bo. -Bo? -Yeah. I don’t date black women now because of past experiences. They like to place their strong personality on you.

And sometimes you just kind of– you’re just like, stay in a woman’s place. So do you have any idea why you’re here? We share some of the same opinions. About? Why are black women so angry?

Was your mother angry? To a certain degree, yes. She had that anger inside of her. But she made sure that she didn‘t pass it on to me.

I see how she handles that. And she gives off that vibe that I get from women here. But when it came to me, and how she approached me and taught me about women, she said, don’t deal with this. That’s interesting.

Because as a black mother, my work was to help my son understand it so that he would know how to stand in it with a black woman. Why are you here? My situation’s a little bit different because I traveled a lot when I was a kid. Very talented, very gifted musically.

So because of that, and when I came back to my neighborhood, when I was dealing with certain black women, you’re different. You talk funny. You dress funny.

The music you listen to is funny. I don’t like being– because I had flip-flops on or had a turtleneck, I’m gay. The problem I’m having is just because you’re my culture, and you’re black, you don’t get a pass. All of the women in my family– I’ve got a side of cousins that made me feel weird about that. How can anybody make you feel anything?

You get to choose how you feel. You don’t know that when you’re a kid. It’s a psychological imprint. What does that have to do with today? Now, with a black woman, I have this in my mind before I even talk to you.

She’s going to think I’m weird. And that bothered me a lot. When I went to junior high school, I got bussed from Ocean Hill Brownsville to Flatbush. And they spit on me and called me a nigger. They spit on me.

And I was 13. And these were adults, not the children. So my point is this. That don’t have nothing to do with who I am today. [MUSIC PLAYING] What is your experience? A lot of black women, they don’t want to talk to me.

Some of them won’t talk to me. -Because? Some of them won’t talk to me because, number one, I’m a God-fearing man. I don’t believe– like right now I’m practicing abstinence.

I’m not having any sex whatsoever. Why you ain’t in the church? I am in the church. I’m going to talk to you about the church women.

If you don’t have a collar, they don’t want to talk to you. I’m going to be straight up. But do you know what. the collar represents, though? I guess it’s purity, or leadership, or divine.

How about power? Yeah. How about power? That’s what it represents. But let me tell you why I’ve called you here today.

I’ve invited you here because my intention is to dismantle the myth of the angry black woman. I believe it’s a myth. As a black woman, I believe it’s a myth. I invited you here for a mixer tonight, just to be with some women.

All kinds of women. All ages of women. We all have a story. We all have an experience.

And we all get to choose. Tonight you get to choose how you’re going to experience these women. But I do also want to thank you for being here.

Thank you for being a demonstration. Because I know there are hundreds of thousands of black men, all ages, who have had these experiences. And I believe.

Fix My Life ...

-Who are you? MICHAEL ANGELO: Michael Angelo. -OK. Nice to meet you, Michael. -Nice to meet you. How are you?

I’ve been out with black women or approached a black woman. And before they even knew me, they said, how many kids you got? How many baby mommas you got? Dating outside my race, I haven’t had no issues like that at all. -OK, and you are? -I’m Koro.

Koro. I’ve been practicing abstinence for three years. Three years with no sex. I’m looking for someone that can respect my views on this, someone that can love me for me. -And you are? -Bo. -Bo? -Yeah. I don’t date black women now because of past experiences.

They like to place their strong personality on you. And sometimes you just kind of– you’re just like, stay in a woman’s place. So do you have any idea why you’re here? We share some of the same opinions.

About? Why are black women so angry? Was your mother angry? To a certain degree, yes.

She had that anger inside of her. But she made sure that she didn’t pass it on to me. I see how she handles that. And she gives off that vibe that I get from women here. But when it came to me, and how she approached me and taught me about women, she said, don’t deal with this.

That’s interesting. Because as a black mother, my work was to help my son understand it so that he would know how to stand in it with a black woman. Why are you here? My situation’s a little bit different because I traveled a lot when I was a kid.

Very talented, very gifted musically. So because of that, and when I came back to my neighborhood, when I was dealing with certain black women, you’re different. You talk funny. You dress funny.

The music you listen to is funny. I don’t like being– because I had flip-flops on or had a turtleneck, I’m gay. The problem I’m having is just because you’re my culture, and you’re black, you don’t get a pass. All of the women in my family– I’ve got a side of cousins that made me feel weird about that. How can anybody make you feel anything?

You get to choose how you feel. You don’t know that when you’re a kid. It’s a psychological imprint. What does that have to do with today? Now, with a black woman, I have this in my mind before I even talk to you.

She’s going to think I’m weird. And that bothered me a lot. When I went to junior high school, I got bussed from Ocean Hill Brownsville to Flatbush. And they spit on me and called me a nigger. They spit on me.

And I was 13. And these were adults, not the children. So my point is this. That don’t have nothing to do with who I am today. [MUSIC PLAYING] What is your experience?

A lot of black women, they don’t want to talk to me. Some of them won’t talk to me. -Because? Some of them won’t talk to me because, number one, I’m a God-fearing man. I don’t believe– like right now I’m practicing abstinence.

I’m not having any sex whatsoever. Why you ain’t in the church? I am in the church. I’m going to talk to you about the church women. If you don’t have a collar, they don’t want to talk to you.

I’m going to be straight up. But do you know what. the collar represents, though? I guess it’s purity, or leadership, or divine. How about power? Yeah.

How about power? That’s what it represents. But let me tell you why I’ve called you here today.

I’ve invited you here because my intention is to dismantle the myth of the angry black woman. I believe it’s a myth. As a black woman, I believe it’s a myth.

I invited you here for a mixer tonight, just to be with some women. All kinds of women. All ages of women. We all have a story.

We all have an experience. And we all get to choose. Tonight you get to choose how you’re going to experience these women. But I do also want to thank you for being here. Thank you for being a demonstration.

Because I know there are hundreds of thousands of black men, all ages, who have had these experiences. And I believe. And it’s my intention for us to heal.

Why These Black Men Don’t Date Black Women | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network

-Who are you? MICHAEL ANGELO: Michael Angelo. -OK. Nice to meet you, Michael. -Nice to meet you.

How are you? I’ve been out with black women or approached a black woman. And before they even knew me, they said, how many kids you got?

How many baby mommas you got? Dating outside my race, I haven‘t had no issues like that at all. -OK, and you are? -I’m Koro. Koro.

I’ve been practicing abstinence for three years. Three years with no sex. I’m looking for someone that can respect my views on this, someone that can love me for me. -And you are? -Bo. -Bo? -Yeah. I don’t date black women now because of past experiences. They like to place their strong personality on you.

And sometimes you just kind of– you’re just like, stay in a woman’s place. So do you have any idea why you’re here? We share some of the same opinions. About? Why are black women so angry?

Was your mother angry? To a certain degree, yes. She had that anger inside of her. But she made sure that she didn‘t pass it on to me.

I see how she handles that. And she gives off that vibe that I get from women here. But when it came to me, and how she approached me and taught me about women, she said, don’t deal with this. That’s interesting.

Because as a black mother, my work was to help my son understand it so that he would know how to stand in it with a black woman. Why are you here? My situation’s a little bit different because I traveled a lot when I was a kid. Very talented, very gifted musically.

So because of that, and when I came back to my neighborhood, when I was dealing with certain black women, you’re different. You talk funny. You dress funny.

The music you listen to is funny. I don’t like being– because I had flip-flops on or had a turtleneck, I’m gay. The problem I’m having is just because you’re my culture, and you’re black, you don’t get a pass. All of the women in my family– I’ve got a side of cousins that made me feel weird about that. How can anybody make you feel anything?

You get to choose how you feel. You don’t know that when you’re a kid. It’s a psychological imprint. What does that have to do with today? Now, with a black woman, I have this in my mind before I even talk to you.

She’s going to think I’m weird. And that bothered me a lot. When I went to junior high school, I got bussed from Ocean Hill Brownsville to Flatbush. And they spit on me and called me a nigger. They spit on me.

And I was 13. And these were adults, not the children. So my point is this. That don’t have nothing to do with who I am today. [MUSIC PLAYING] What is your experience? A lot of black women, they don’t want to talk to me.

Some of them won’t talk to me. -Because? Some of them won’t talk to me because, number one, I’m a God-fearing man. I don’t believe– like right now I’m practicing abstinence.

I’m not having any sex whatsoever. Why you ain’t in the church? I am in the church. I’m going to talk to you about the church women.

If you don’t have a collar, they don’t want to talk to you. I’m going to be straight up. But do you know what. the collar represents, though? I guess it’s purity, or leadership, or divine.

How about power? Yeah. How about power? That’s what it represents. But let me tell you why I’ve called you here today.

I’ve invited you here because my intention is to dismantle the myth of the angry black woman. I believe it’s a myth. As a black woman, I believe it’s a myth. I invited you here for a mixer tonight, just to be with some women.

All kinds of women. All ages of women. We all have a story. We all have an experience.

And we all get to choose. Tonight you get to choose how you’re going to experience these women. But I do also want to thank you for being here.

Thank you for being a demonstration. Because I know there are hundreds of thousands of black men, all ages, who have had these experiences. And I believe.

And it’s my intention for us to heal.

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